Love

At the weekend I had the amazing pleasure of attending my nephew’s wedding.   He married the most welcoming, friendly Irish man I have ever met.   It was the first time I had been to a same sex wedding and having done the whole theology thing (a number of times) about working out whether I agree with it or not I didn’t think too much about it and happily went along knowing that I felt that it was something that God would bless.   What I wasn’t prepared for was how my own white, middle class, privileged up bringing would be challenged.

 wedding happened on the back of the riots in Charlottesville as well as a running joke in our family about how decidedly middle class we are (whether we like it or not).  As I sat and enjoyed this wonderful service where two people who so obviously loved each other committed themselves to love and care for one another, I thought about how much more meaningful it felt than many other weddings I had attended.  Why?  Well I think it was because when you have been discriminated against, (whether it’s because you’re gay, poor, black, gender unsure, a woman ……..the list goes on) moments of celebration seemed even sweeter because you know it hasn’t been an easy road to get there. It wasn’t just another wedding, it was a celebration of what love really is and love can overcome so many things.

One of the speakers spoke of the London Gay Men’s Chorus and how they sought to work against LGBT discrimination all over the world.   How some of the members had fought for the right to have same sex marriage as well as against the harassment and regular discrimination they face.  I thought how when we get things handed on a plate to us, we don’t appreciate them as much, how they can often seem more disposable and how we think we have a right to have such things.   The reality is we feel it is our right.  But it isn’t.  As a follower of Jesus it certainly isn’t my right to ignore these injustices just because I don’t face them.  Jesus didn’t, he stood by those who faced discrimination and loved them and welcomed them into his Kingdom and the Kingdom is undoubtedly the richer for it.  I know I certainly am.

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Getting to know the Neighbours

Riding on the back of the success of the first ‘Meet your Neighbour Night’ I’m planning a ‘Neighbours Get-Together’ next Sunday afternoon.   Residents are currently moving in at a rate of 6-10 per month.  Having a Meet Your Neighbour event for newbies once every 10 – 12 weeks feels about right at the moment, with something smaller in between, so we are just getting people to meet by the pond with some cakes and drinks as well as having some games.   We’ll see how it goes!

Whilst events are a great way of getting together, building relationships with people on a one to one level is really important too.    The most difficult thing about this at the moment is I don’t live there and there’s no coffee shops, pubs or community spaces as yet.  Other than community events the most likely place for me to meet people is by either knocking on someones door and introducing myself (this is easy when you have the Welcome Pack but more difficult from then on).

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Having said that Sales Office is a place where I bump into people and usually it’s people who are due to move in rather than existing residents.    Generally they are pretty excited at the thought of moving into their new home and are really interested in my role.  Bumping into them at that point is a great first introduction.   People will often contact me with any questions if they have met me, or if one of the sales teams passes my details on.  One lady rang me last week as they hadn’t made up their minds on whether to buy or not as they were worried about being isolated.  I could hear that through our conversation she became more confident that she would meet people and be able to make friends through community events.   I love conversations like this.   I do think the first residents are really brave, moving into somewhere when they really don’t know what it will end up like.   It must be daunting, so it’s great to have a job that helps reassure people.

The issues of not having a ‘home’ in Lubbesthorpe will go away when the community cabin arrives at the beginning of October.   Hopefully it will become a community hub.    I really love the fact that this cabin will move around the site as new people move in.   It means this role is always at the forefront of people moving into Lubbesthorpe, welcoming them and helping them get to know one another.   It’s also a neutral space.   One of the things I have noticed where I live currently is that people don’t like going to peoples houses they don’t know that well.   They seem to feel awkward.   Not sure whether it will be the same in Lubbesthorpe but in light of the above, I hope it will feel like the communities space, not mine.    Plus the gathering space will be bigger than a house which has to be a bonus!

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The bonus of not having anywhere is of course you have to think outside of the box, always helpful when pioneering!

 

Meet Your Neighbour

Our very first Meet Your Neighbour Night was brilliant!  It far exceeded my expectations, all but 3 of the occupied houses came and we also had a few people who are soon to move in.

 

After a worry we would have no marquee it arrived in plenty of time with the added bonus of a bouncy castle.  We also had games, plenty of food, face painting and balloon making.   It was great to see the way people chatted so easily to one another.   Whilst our team went around helping to break the ice with people overall people seemed to be very comfortable with introducing themselves to one another.   The event lasted about 2 hours and as we cleared up we watched as people stood outside their houses chatting to one another.

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One of the great quotes for the night was ‘ what are you doing next’.    Great to know that people want to get together again, my main challenge will to see how we can get people involved in growing ideas and making them happen together, rather than relying on me to organise things.

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They’re here!

It’s been too long since I’ve blogged!   A lot has been happening over the last couple of months so over the next few days I’ll try to fill the gap.

Firstly the most exciting thing is we now have people! 17 houses have residents  living in them. I’ve been visiting everyone within a couple of weeks or so of them moving in and dropping off a Welcome Pack.    I’m pleased to say the reception I’m getting is great.

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Sometimes I get invited in, sometimes it’s just a doorstep conversation, either way on the whole people are thrilled they have a Community Worker and are excited about the chance to meet new friends through what we are doing. This was borne out by the great turn out we had at our first Meet Your Neighbour Night, where 14 out of the 17 houses came. Brilliant…… but more about that in my next blog.

The Welcome Packs seem to be going down well, I think people are finding them helpful and I will be checking that’s the case as I bump into people and ask if they think I need to adapt them at all. We’ve been fortunate the Developer helped pay for them which is great partnership work. One of the best things people have said to me when I’ve dropped off the Welcome Pack is ‘wow it’s great that you are doing this job, it feels like someone really cares about us’. What a great thing to have said and it’s certainly made me feel welcome!

The packs include a folder with information about what we are doing, the area, the vision for Lubbesthorpe and other community information.   It gets delivered in a cotton shopping bag with our logo on, a key ring and a seasonal gift.   The packs will change over time as we learn what works and what doesn’t and adapt to the changes around us.  There will be around 6 – 10 people moving in per month from now on, with that increasing over time.    A third house builder has moved in on site which means more houses and by about 2021 there will be around 300 houses per year being built (market dependent) .   I don’t know how long we will be able to keep up the home visits when we get to that many but I do think it’s a really lovely way to welcome people so maybe growing a team of welcomers from residents will help us continue for a long time yet.

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I’m still bowled over by this brilliant job I have, it’s such a great opportunity to show love and care to the community in the name of Jesus.  Amazing!

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For the last couple of weeks I’ve been putting together some leaflets that will go into a Welcome Pack which we will be delivering to all new residents as they move into Lubbesthorpe.    I’ve spent a bit of time with recent house movers finding out what sort of information would have been useful when they moved, hopefully this will mean it will be helpful to Lubbesthorpe’s new residents.    It will have regularly be reviewed as things can seem to change quite rapidly!   The pack will also contain any information from other local groups and organisations and is produced in partnership with the developers.  Being open to working alongside others is important to helping healthy community form.   We’re here to listen, serve and love the community which means everyone should be included.

The first people will move in at the end of April,  I’ve already met a few of the new residents at a show home opening so have been able to introduce myself.    The plan is to visit them in their new homes after the first week or so to take the Welcome Pack with some small gifts just to say Hi!   Hopefully it will help them settle a bit, assuring them there is someone around to help cultivate a community and helping them to get to know their neighbours.

It will be a little while until I have somewhere to call my own in Lubbesthorpe, the Community Cabin or ‘posh shed’ is well on its way to being designed but the logistics of where it’s going haven’t quite been worked out yet.   It has to be in place by the 50th house dwelling so hopefully no later than the end of the summer.   In the meantime I have some space I can use at the weekends in one of the show home offices.    As summer arrives I will be able to hang around outside as there are some benches on a boardwalk across a pond which overlooks the countryside which I can sit and chat to people on.    Depending on how usable the outdoor space is we may even be able to put on some events outside.  You never know I might even get a tan with it!

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Shake the Dust off your Feet

Being Lubbethorpe’s Pioneer Community Worker has been mostly great.   New challenge, new place, new people, brilliant.   Whilst there have been some times when things have seemed a bit slow getting off the ground, now it’s picking up pace and it won’t be long until the people move in.  Exciting times.

On the whole the everyone has been really receptive to me and the part Churches Together are playing but occasionally you come across someone who is really offended by the Church, which means me, because I work for ‘the church’.   I often wonder what ‘the church’ means to them.   After all Christianity (and other faith traditions actually) is this whole bag of views and contained within it are many different ways people behave as Christians.    Lately I’ve been pondering how I react when I unwittingly offend someone because I work for ‘the church’ and they think they know what I think or what I’m going to do!

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Should I defend myself, try to explain I am not one of ‘those’ Christians or should I water down my Christian roots and just keep quiet and not say anything.    When Jesus sent his disciples out on mission he gave them instructions ‘if people do not welcome you, leave …. and shake the dust off of your feet’ (Luke 9:5).   In reality that isn’t easy to do (and sometimes not practical)  but I think what good advice that is. How much baggage do we hold onto, how often do we try and solve an issue with someone when they simply don’t want to hear what you have to say.   The result is usually you loose sight of the main thing because a small issue has got in the way.   It’s a bit like this blog.   I’ve had some brilliant things happen lately but I’ve ended up blogging about a small thing that is bothering me.    I think this is me getting it off my chest and hopefully moving on.

More exciting news next time but for now proof Spring is sprung and New Life is on its way in New Lubbesthorpe ….

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Building a Team

At the moment I’m trying to build a team.  People who will join in this thing called pioneering, people who will ‘get it’, people who are happy to not know the end at the beginning.

I love the fact that Lubbesthorpe is a cross denominational project.   I’m very at home in my Baptist roots but have lots of friends who come from different traditions and love the diversity of that so I’m really keen to see that the Team is balanced across a number of different church flavours.   Some might see that as hard work, after all amongst Baptists there are usually more opinions than people and I don’t think that’s different elsewhere, so why on earth would you want to add even more diverse opinions into the mix!   Well I think part of it for me is the belief that every Christian tradition needs to learn what it is to be church in our fast changing world.   None of us have the monopoly on that and we all need hear, learn and respect each others opinions and thoughts.    I hope we will all be able to do just that and take back what we’ve learnt to our different home traditions and maybe see the birth of a new way of being church not only in Lubbethorpe but in other places too.

Initially the team will be a Development Team made up of people who want to help in the early days.    They might leave once we have people who live in Lubbesthorpe join or they might even want to move into the area but ultimately the aim is for the Team is to comprise of those who live in Lubbesthorpe.  Some of whom won’t have a faith or are just exploring, some who might even come from a completely different faith tradition, after all we are of course on the edge of one of the most ethnically diverse cities in the country.

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It is often said Pioneering on a new housing estates is about forming community rather than transforming community (which pioneering so often is).    How that community forms will to some extent be affected by the values we model and live by. Loving and respecting all whether they are the same as us or different, whether they have a faith similar to ours or not is I think an important key value to model right from the beginning. There will be more values to be discovered and that will take time as we have people join us and we get to know each other.   I’m visiting people who are interested in joining the Development Team at the moment, that’s quite exciting!   I’m looking forward to having people alongside me who are happy with not knowing the end of the beginning and want to venture out into the unknown!  Happy days.

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